Below is an excellent article advocating for a different mindset. One in which we should allow passion to grow alongside skills. That as we overcome obstacles and acquire competence, passion tends to follow, usually connected with feelings of accomplishment and rooted in an earned self-esteem.
My thoughts in reading the article, of course, went to parents and young music students. I've been aware for a long time that this is, in fact, the real pattern. That students that somehow do enough work to build the skills of music-making are the ones who reap the many benefits, including in some cases a growing passion to make it central to their lives for ever.